
Every morning when I wake,
Dear Lord,a little prayer I make,
O please to keep Thy lovely eye
On all poor creatures born to die
And every evening at sundown
I ask a blessing on the town,
For whether we last the night or no
I'm sure is always touch-and-go.
We are not wholly bad or good
Who live our lives under Milk Wood,
And Thou, I know, wilt be the first
To see our best side, not our worst.
O let us see another day!
Bless us all this night, I pray,
And to the sun we all will bow
And say, good-bye--but just for now!
I just wanted to thank all of you for coming to Vic's funeral and to all those unable to attend but sending their best wishes.
A lot of people said, if it is the right thing to say about a funeral, what a lovely day it was and I think I have to agree. It was everything that Vic had asked for including the hearse and four horses.
Although it was very hard to help arrange and conduct my own husbands funeral (obviously Andrew did most of the arranging) I have to say it was easier than I had expected and it felt like an honour to do it.
Today has felt very strange, I feel better now the funeral is over and I don't have to worry about it but at the same time like it was a long time ago and any time now he will come back from the trip is away on and come home.
My sister and Rod, Vic's brother, have both gone back to their respective countries and Auntie Claire is back again to help out with all the new jobs put in front of me. All the household stuff that has to have Vic's name taken off of and all the legal stuff to deal with. Maybe after that it will hit home that he's not coming back.
I realise, even though working in this field and dealing with it every day, death is a strange thing. What is death? Is it the point when you draw your last breath or is it the point you realise they are dead? Or is it just a word and the rest is all feelings? I wish I had the answer but I can see why I have found bereaved people so interesting to work with because the bereaved could all individually answer the question with a million different points of view.
I hope you will all remember Vic with a smile and I hope you have all taken something away with you from Vic's story. If all he has taught you is to live for today don't put off that little things you felt you should have done. If you keeping meaning to visit a relative or friend do it, if you have a burning desire to go to Paris and climb the Eiffel Tower, go and do it or if you can't tell someone you love them because its not your thing or you are too embarrassed just think how that person would feel if you never got to tell them and your time came. Would they know you did or would they be left wondering? Never go to sleep on an argument, argue if necessary but make friends after or if it's impossible to make friends after, are they actually your friend after all?
The little things in life are the most important, a note left on the kitchen table just to say hello or tell someone they have a perfect face are priceless. Wild flowers picked from the side of the road are as beautiful as the local florist's most expensive arrangement. A picnic is often far more romantic than a four course meal at the Ritz (not that I've eaten there of course) and one of Vic's more disappointing purchases was a Harrod's hamper! Money doesn't buy you happiness!
I'm not sure that I will be making anymore entries on this blog but I do thank you all from the bottom of my heart for reading our story, for taking time to make those all important comments, for all the cards, letter, visits, help in all it's different forms. For all the offers of limousines, hearses, Bearers, etc, etc and for all the donations already received for D9 endowment fund.
It has been a bloody hard and at times painful in all senses of the word, journey for Vic and myself and all our family and friends but Vic's pain is over and even though ours is just beginning he said himself he did not want us to live in the past that is done. He wanted all of us to move on and be happy that we knew him and remember all those fun times we had with him.
Thank you.