I was never looking forward to writing this entry but here it is. I'm so sorry to tell you all that today we all lost a very precious person and I lost my best friend, my husband and my soul mate.
It was very hard at the end. He was determined not to go and he would not go without a huge struggle. He battled with everything he had but it was all too much. He is at peace now he doesn't have to struggle anymore. He won't have to go through all that treatment, ups, downs, travelling, pain, pain on a scale we can hopefully never imagine. I feel pleased for him that its all over, there was no way he could have gone on any longer with all the things that were wrong.
He had a constant stream of visitors and cards and well wishes and hopes and he was so surprised how nice everyone was to him. He never realised how liked and respected he was. His sisters had been with him for hours but I think he wanted to upset the minimal amount of people and went with just us here.
We did everything we possibly could on every level. He wouldn't of been able to die in the peace of his own home had mum not been here and having found out the hospital sent him home with only 3 or 4 days left it makes you realise how happy he was when he made 2 and a half weeks.
He truly was a unique individual and the world is a sadder place now he is not in it but it has been a very happy and blessed place to have had him here at all.
Thank you for all you have put on Vic's blog he loved reading it and what lovely things you all put. We are so lucky to have so many caring friends.
It was very hard at the end. He was determined not to go and he would not go without a huge struggle. He battled with everything he had but it was all too much. He is at peace now he doesn't have to struggle anymore. He won't have to go through all that treatment, ups, downs, travelling, pain, pain on a scale we can hopefully never imagine. I feel pleased for him that its all over, there was no way he could have gone on any longer with all the things that were wrong.
He had a constant stream of visitors and cards and well wishes and hopes and he was so surprised how nice everyone was to him. He never realised how liked and respected he was. His sisters had been with him for hours but I think he wanted to upset the minimal amount of people and went with just us here.
We did everything we possibly could on every level. He wouldn't of been able to die in the peace of his own home had mum not been here and having found out the hospital sent him home with only 3 or 4 days left it makes you realise how happy he was when he made 2 and a half weeks.
He truly was a unique individual and the world is a sadder place now he is not in it but it has been a very happy and blessed place to have had him here at all.
Thank you for all you have put on Vic's blog he loved reading it and what lovely things you all put. We are so lucky to have so many caring friends.
23 comments:
rest in peace vic, your presence charm wit and smile will missed by us all at bradnams, god bless.
dear susan
may the love you both shared give you comfort at this time thankyou for sharing all the good and bad times with us all on this blog you are an insperation to us all take car R.I.P VIC xx
sally bill and gill xx
Sue, We are so, so sorry to have received the news we were dreading, but relieved that Vic is at peace.
Vic has been robbed of life, and you of a wonderful human being.
Thank goodness for the brief but such happy times you had together.
With love and prayers
Jane and Christine xxx
THE SAILING SHIP
what is dying?
i am standing on the sea shore.
a ship sails to the morning breeze and starts for the ocean.
she is the object of beauty and i stand watching her, till at last she fades into the horizon.
someone says " she is gone " gone where ?
GONE FROM MY SIGHT ,THAT IS ALL.
she is just as large in the masts, hull and spars as she was when i saw her, and just as able to bear her laod of living freight to its destination.
the diminished size and total loss of sight is in me, not in her, and just at that moment when someone at my side says " SHE IS GONE "
There are others who are watching her coming, and other voices take up a glad shout.
" THERE SHE COMES "-and that is dying
we hope this gives you some comfort, our sincere thoughts are with you all.
love tetley and yvonne xx
we are so sorry to here that vic has passed away. we have known him for many years and paul has worked with him for some 25 of those.
he is free from pain, although for many their pain will continue for a long time to come.
its never easy loosing a loved one, something that comes to us all and you are never quite prepared for it.
talk aloud to vic, he will hear you.
I have a stong belief that they are still with us at all times.
vic family and friends are in our thoughts.
yvonne and tetley xx
Dear Susan, I got the message from Dianne when I phoned last night that dear Vic had passed away in the early evening (as you can imagine, tears shed on hanging up). We are all so sorry that he left us in such a poor condition and so grateful to you, Dianne and Claire for making his last weeks at home as comfortable and as pain free as possible. It’s clear from the blog that Vic had so many good qualities that gained him so many friends. He was certainly responsible for bringing the family together after 30 years apart and the recent weekend reunion will be a memory to be cherished.
Vic was so very lucky to have met and married such a caring person and it is so unfair that you have been robbed of the long and happy future you both deserved.
A grey, cold, miserable bike ride in to work today suited the occasion but Vic will be remembered on that sunny weekend, laughing and joking with his cherry tree and summerhouse in view.
We'll all miss him.
Mick (+ H + A)
The Greatest Gift
The greatest Gift,
in the end
was a family
and a Friend.
An ear to lend
a hand to hold,
and you,
my Friend -
your heart of gold.
Lots of Love and kisses to you all
Lyn & Tony xx
Despite our brief renunion with Vic we have been privledged to have had the opportunity to catch up and say our goodbys, they say "the bitterest tears shed over graves are for words left unsaid and deeds left undone".
It was wonderful for Susan and her family to make the last few weeks so worth living for. "I guess that how death works. It doesn’t matter if we're ready or not. It just happens"
Between tears Diana and I were laughing this morning at Vics description at a fair of his chocolate bar coffin creation.
What a boy, no doubt he still has a few giggles in store for us yet!
Our thoughts are with you
H
Hi Susan
I can only reiterate what the others have said. Such a loss for you.
You, and Vic, and your family are in our thoughts.
From all at Armstrongs.
Our love hugs and kisses sent to Vic via his blog pages are now sent to you Susie. Although we didnt know him for very long, we knew we had met a lovely, kind and funny gentleman and if there is a place where we go after this one, then it just got a whole lot better for having vic arrive.
Denise, Paul Nicki and Lee xxxx
Our love Hugs and kisses sent to Vic via his blog are now sent to you Susie. Although we didnt know him for very long, we knew that Vic was a lovely, kind and funny gentleman, and if there is another place where we go after this one, it just got a whole lot better for having Vic arrive.
Denise, Paul, Nicki and Lee xxx
To Sue and all Vic’s family,
Words don’t seem enough at this extremely sad time, Vic was such a lovely man, and will be very sadly missed by so many.
God looked around his garden,
and saw an empty space,
he then looked down upon the earth, and saw your sweet face
he put his arms around you,
and carried you to rest,
Gods garden must be beautiful,
he only takes the best.
The Officers, Executives, staff at SAIF Business Centre and I am sure all SAIF members who knew Vic, join with me and send their deepest sympathies & condolences at the loss of such a special man.
You are an inspiration Sue, you (and your family) have been supportive and strong.
Keep your strength up now by knowing that you are in the thoughts and prayers of so many.
from Darren Carpenter,
SAIF National President.
I would like to express our deep sadness at the news of Vic's untimely death. For this to happen to a true gentleman shows how cruel life can be. We will remember him with the greatest of pleasure. Our condolences to all those who were graced by his friendship
All at Frank Rivett & Sons
God Bless you Vic, its been an honour to know and work with you.
You will be greatly missed.
Sue stay strong and remember the love you shared, he will never be very far from you.
Anything we can do dont hesitate to get in touch.
Much love as always
Jim, Claire, Eleanor and George.
x x x x x x x x x x x x x x x x
Dear Susan
I am so sorry to learn that Vic has left us however I hope and pray that you will heave peace in your heart knowing that Vic is out of pain and that he is in a place of beauty and eternal life.
Thank you so much for opening your home up to Vic's extended family; I am so grateful to have shared time with him on Sunday; to have discovered his love of banoffee pie - every time I eat it I will think of him and smile.
Thank you again; you are in my thoughts and prayers.
God Bless Vic xxxx
It didn't matter that for for a long time I didn't see my Uncle Vic from one year to the next, whenever we met up again it was as if that time gap had never existed. Always ready with a smile, a cuddle and a lot of laughs I can safely say my Uncle was one of my favourite people. The last few years having him as a constant have truly been a blessing, for my family and especially my mum who rekindled a very special relationship, one I know they both cherished and I am so very pleased they had. You have inherited us all now Sue, and we are with you for the duration. The way you have kept everyone else going is a credit to your strong nature, thank you. Uncle Vic, I miss you now, and always x
Dear Susan,
So very sorry to hear of the sad loss of Vic to the next room. I have watched his battles via the blog, and whilst there was terrible pain and suffering, I will always feel that Vic was a great bloke, full of infectious energy and desire. He's the kind of bloke that I would love to have met, and I am sure that as the days go by you will be strengthened by the memories of your time together. I know that my parents are grateful for the all too short time that they knew Vic.
Vic can now relax in his summer house and will be looking on at you with a proud smile on his face.
Love to you and all of the family Susan. Rest in Peace, a great man, Vic.
Kindest regards
Lee
Dear Susan,
So very sorry to hear of the sad loss of Vic to the next room. I have watched his battles via the blog, and whilst there was terrible pain and suffering, I will always feel that Vic was a great bloke, full of infectious energy and desire. He's the kind of bloke that I would love to have met, and I am sure that as the days go by you will be strengthened by the memories of your time together. I know that my parents are grateful for the all too short time that they knew Vic.
Vic can now relax in his summer house and will be looking on at you with a proud smile on his face.
Love to you and all of the family Susan. Rest in Peace, a great man, Vic.
Kindest regards
Lee
Dear Suz,
I am so sad that is Vic has gone. I know he is in a better place and will not have to suffer any more pain, but that doesn't ease the pain for all who are left behind -especially you. I am so glad you met each other and even though the time was short you both put so much love into those few years, more than some people see in a lifetime. This blog was such a great idea and it let so many people into his life and let us all share what a wonderful generous, kindhearted, humble soul Vic was.
Rest in peace Vic. We love you
Wendybrit1
Dear Susan
We were very saddened to receive the news of Vic's passing.
It is of comfort to know he passed away amidst such a strong bond of love.
You are very much in our thoughts.
God Bless You
Alun, Karl and all at H L Hawes
Dear Sue,
so, so sorry. What a fine young man you had as a husband and friend, and how blessed we all have been just to know him. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and all of Vic's family at this very sad time.
Chris & Jim Parker and Jo.
Dear Susan,
I was sorry to read about Vic, but really pleased that I saw him so recently, and can picture him looking out at the cherry tree smiling. He was a truly great guy who will be missed by so many.How lucky he was to have had such love,care and devotion in his last months.We will never know why he has been taken so young but he will leave a massive hole in so many people's lives. An example and inspiration to us all.
My thoughts are with you.
Neil
Dear susan
its Donna from D9.sorry to hear that vic has passed away the ward was very saddened to hear the news as he was a very liked an thought of man.its was a pleasure to no vic as he mad me laff as did you you both had great senses of humor and i think we all loved that very down to earth couple.I will always remember vic because he had some great stories an great way of makin us laff an it made the day seem to worth while.even the day before he left when i last saw you both an him being in great pain he still managed to make me laff an put big smiles on my face.you should be so proud of him and yourself he was a great person.it was a privalige to look after him an gave me great satisfaction in my job and make my job wothwhile.make him proud of you on his day which im really sorry i cant make but some D9 nurses will be there.i will miss him.i will miss seeing you too if that makes any sense as we all got on so well.if you ever feel like a chat im on donnafoster@hotmail.com.my thoughts will be with you.xxx
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