The good thing is Vic got to go into his beloved Summerhouse on Friday as you can see and enjoyed every moment of it he even liked how it smelled. He loved the view from the windows he could see how green everything was. It was as perfect as he had imagined. Even the fresh air on his face was so lovely to him.
In the last few days he has said how happy he is and if he died tomorrow he would be a happy man. His life may of had its ups and downs over the last few years but he is at peace with himself at last.
The decline since yesterday has been very rapid but among other things he said he would fight this and he is although I think as I write he knows he is safe and comfortable and the fight is for his sake and not ours. I'm just so glad he got to come home to his Sanctuary to see the garden, have friends over, enjoy lots of good food and to laugh. This last few weeks have been so incredibly precious and ones I would not change the way they were lived for the world. Being lucky is not about winning the lottery or finding a fiver on the pavement its about being happy in yourself and being lucky enough to have people who really want to help and genuinely care for you when you can't help yourself and from that point of view both Vic and I truly have been blessed.
I know he would want to thank you all for reading today, for all the love, support, cards and expressions of kindness shown to us in so many ways and for the extremely large box of chocolates received yesterday morning which he did sincerely enjoy some of and as you can see from the picture you wouldn't have know the next 24hours would see so much change.
Obviously the next entry will follow all too soon but please bear in mind his blossom tree and if there is somewhere else I pray he will have his new green leaves
10 comments:
Obviously we are all very sad to read your latest blog.
Knowing where this is all going it has been reassuring to hear so
many positive things being said.
I often used to wonder why people who got cancer used to say
its one of the best things that happened to them, but since I got
cancer I see what they mean.
Often you travel through life just dipping in and out of peoples lives,
when something like this happens peoples hidden emotions surface
and you suddenly see a side to people you never knew existed.
Without this sadness we would probably not have got to renew our relationship
with Victor, and although its been short its been lovely to get to know the man.
Sometimes a seed is planted and grows into something that should have been cut down years
ago, and each generation learns the hard way.
The pictures are just lovely, and we will treasure all those we took on that wonderful
weekend spent with you. Give Victor a kiss from us
vic its tetley
you will have green leaves
you will have blossom
you will be ok
our thoughts and prayers are with you all
love tetley and yvonne xxx
Hi Sue and Vic
Oh Sue, we have just read your blog with such sadness and admiration for you both. In the past few days Christine and I had both hoped that Vic would make it to the summerhouse, we are so pleased that he did, and to see the pictures of him so proudly being there.
What an inspirational couple you are.
Our love and prayers to you all.
Jane and Christine xxx
Just read your latest blog and it is difficult to know what to say. You are never far from our thoughts and we send our love to you both.
Andrew and Jayne
Dear Vic and Susan,
Very sad to read the blog, but what a great way to keep us all informed and I can tell from the messages received, people are reading it every day. So many people care, but that's because you are a nice caring couple, who have touched so many people's lives. Cancer is such a vicious illness to some. Why we will never know, but to keep smiling through it all is truly a great gift. You both are in our minds most of the day at the moment. It is difficult to concentrate, but a visit to the church ( right next door and I have a key) for a prayer and some memories of our trip to Canada and America and your wedding in January may help.
Keep smiling, because it really is your trademark.
Neil
God bless you both. I do believe that there is a good welcoming place to be after this life. You are both in my prayers.
Love Chris Parker
God bless you both. I do believe that there is a good welcoming place to be after this life. You are both in my prayers.
Love Chris Parker
dear Susan
am in tears after reading your latest entry. but glad to hear vic is peaceful. you are both in our thoughts and prayers every day.
from sall, bill and gill
xx
Even though I realize that Vic would get to this stage of his illness, I am still unprepared to accept it. I am glad that Vic has made peace with himself. I hope we all have the chance to do the same when our time comes. Vic has a kind and generous soul and has been rewarded with having many caring friends and a loving family. Vic, you are my best-loved brother-in-law and I am thankful for having known you. May peace be upon you.
Have just read your latest and saddest news.
I am so sorry for you all but glad that Vic is now free of the terrible pain.
You have all been so brave and caring and you have my full admiration.
May the following days, months however long it may take , give you the rest and peace you deserve and the happy memories of better times.
Love Helen
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