Tired

It's the ghost writer today but it seems people are getting desperate to know whats going on here so I thought I was better than nothing at all.

Well things here are pretty much the same. Rod's wife Moe flew in from Oregon on Tuesday so there's lots of Dashwoods in the house which has been lovely. Unfortunately Rod and Moe fly back on Tuesday and we will miss them. My Auntie Claire went home for the weekend and we miss her too but she's coming back next week to help us.

Vic's eldest brother Mick and his wife Herta and their daughter Alice came to see Vic today. It was good to see the three brothers all together again sharing stories of their memories from their childhood. They are coming back tomorrow and Vic's sister Rosemarie and other sister Diana are also coming too so they will all be back together again in one (very small) house.

Vic is all settled down for the evening and Rod and Moe went up at 9.30pm, mum is now going up too and I won't be long either. We are all bloody knackered. My mum has to get up at 2.30am to change one of Vic's syringe drivers, the other one lasts for 24 hours and the district nurse changes that one. His pain seems to be quite well controlled at the moment and he doesn't have too many points where he rambles and talks bollocks but how long that will last I don't know. Otherwise he sleeps a lot, we all laugh quite a lot, he still says how lucky he is and he still says thank you and apologises profusely for all the work he causes.

He is confined to bed all the time except for one venture onto the commode but that didn't last long as his back started to hurt. Mum and I turn him onto his side and back onto his back a few times during the day. His appetite is still good but we have to fit meals around naps so sometimes his dinner is microwaved a couple of times before he actually eats it. He still drinks lots of tea and never turns down chocolate, but as his sister-in-law cleverly reminded us Chocolate can help produce endorphins and we all know how good they are.

Ledley gets a long walk everyday thanks to Rod and Moe who are enjoying the lovely countryside around us. He's been a really good boy lately thanks to them.

The days seem to fly by it's a bit like being on holiday when you don't know what day it is and there is no real schedule for the day. Usually we get up around 7.00am to give Vic his tablets then we have a cup of tea and try get Vic comfy. By around 10.00 it's time to give Vic a wash and dress him then he's usually exhausted and ready for a sleep. Then we clear the house up, fill the dishwasher, fill the washing machine and tumble dryer and clean the kitchen floor after Ledley has bought half the garden in with him. After all that its lunch time and Vic's awake again. After a bit of DIY or some other task that's appeared (today I fitted a new loo seat and fixed the flush handle on the cistern) it's time for tea after that it's time to settle Vic down again then we are back to square one, however I used to go to work as well I'll never know.

Other than this not a lot has happened. As usual we want to thank everyone for all their help whether that's in the form of food, the daily newspaper, bread and milk, a shoulder to cry on, company, a laugh, massage, a listening ear, helping to run my business, however large or small it all helps us and we are all very grateful. Thank you. Keep sending the messages.